A movement is born due to a lack of rights, the need of
social freedom, the responsibility towards our families,
the respect towards our own selves…
When two women joined their thoughts together, wherever
they were, they started this movement. When a girl snuck
a copy of “The L Word” right under her parents’ noses
and watched it late at night in the sanctity of her bed,
she was part of the movement. When a bunch of us sat
around coffee and tried to help each other with our own
daily struggles, we were part of the movement.
When we think, fight,
coexist, struggle, laugh, lecture, argue, thrive,
succeed, rejoice, gather, educate... We not only become
part of the movement; we become the movement…
Movement, movement, movement…
Let that word sink into your thoughts and try to figure
out what it means, because like it or not, while reading
this very article you are part of it. When you think
about it, you are part of it, when you discuss it, you
will be spreading it… You are a vital member of the
movement!
But let’s face it; most of us are “living just fine
without our rights”. We rent an apartment with our
partner, we go on dates every now and then, to the
movies, for Chinese, to pubs…
We introduce that person to our family and get them
involved and accepted and so on and so forth. Everywhere
you look we exist just fine…
But why should we settle for fine?!
It’s true that we can live normally and peacefully. Then
again, this partner, this person who is our lover, our
best friend, our family, our sister, our rock, our
strength, our joy, our tears, is someone who is included
in every part of our daily lives; unfortunately, we are
pressured to go around introducing them as such: “Mom,
this is my friend,” “Daddy, my roommate is sleeping
over.” “Hey little brother, this is my best friend.”
Is that how we show respect to our partners?!
When did we choose to settle for this game of hide and
seek?!
Am I ever going to be able to hug her and kiss her down
Monot Street?!
Am I going to keep dreading a detective locking us up
for PDA?!
I know this sounds hard, maybe even risky, but the truth
is we are not fighting for something we do not deserve.
We are not even fighting for something we deserve, since
deserve implies that we have to actually earn our
rights. The truth is we are fighting for something we
are entitled to!
We are young! Young and vibrant! We have the ability and
the strength to assert our own sexuality and fight for
it. We have the right to prepare for our future.
I don’t want to be 50 years old and wondering why the
love of my life is married to a man with 3 kids and how
the biggest connection we have is reminiscing about the
past!
I want the love of my life to share my house, my nights,
my mornings, my ups and downs… and our children…
A movement is made up of a group of people who could be
very different and come from very different backgrounds
but who share the same goal and the same aspirations.
And yes… It’s true that we are a very odd group of
people put together; we cannot be any more different!
Our social backgrounds, religions, lives, ambitions,
realities, jobs may vary, but all of us want to be left
to live life the way we see it fit. We do not want to
live with our sexuality in the dark. We do not want to
have to be lead our daily lives fearing our sexual
orientation, trying to disguise the looks we give one
another, or doing our best not hold hands while at a
restaurant… and so on and so forth…
The purpose of this movement is not to walk down the
streets smooching and kissing and acting in a sexual
manner! No! Do not be fooled by the term sexual
orientation. Like all “normal couples” (as, sadly,
society’s definition of normal is a heterosexual
couple), we keep our sexual behaviour in the bedroom.
I urge you to be passionate. Yes, I ask you to burn with
the desire to live this movement. Be a part of its core,
because this movement is not just for you and me, it’s
for all of us: homosexuals, heterosexuals or
transgenders/transsexuals. It’s for the ones who have no
one to fight for them. It’s for the household of the
future… And that future is a haven for all of us. |
